Perfectionism Is Just Fear in Disguise

She kept polishing her work—while secretly avoiding the risk of failure.

I once knew a woman who could spend hours writing and rewriting a two-paragraph email.

She’d change a word, then change it back. Adjust the font size, then agonize over whether 11.5 looked more “professional” than 12. Reposition her signature line five times to make sure the blue wasn’t too bright, but not too dull.

To her, every choice felt like it carried the weight of her reputation. Every detail felt life-or-death.

And so she kept tweaking. And tweaking. And tweaking. Hours disappeared into microscopic adjustments nobody else would ever notice.

Finally, she hit send. Heart pounding. Body tight.

Her boss opened the email, skimmed it for five seconds, dropped a 👍 emoji reply, and moved on.

No comment on the tone. No mention of the polish. Not even a nod at the effort.

She was crushed. Not because her work wasn’t good.

But because she realized her perfection had become debilitating. She wasn’t chasing excellence. She was hiding behind it.

The Trap of Perfectionism

Here’s the paradox: perfectionists don’t usually produce perfect things. In fact, they often produce… nothing.

Just graveyards of Google Docs named: FINAL_v27_FOR REAL_THIS_TIME.

They rehearse endlessly but never perform. Draft endlessly but never publish. Prepare endlessly but never launch.

Perfectionism is a moving target. The more you chase it, the further it runs. Entire years vanish chasing a finish line that only exists in your head.

Perfection Isn’t Excellence. It’s Avoidance.

Psychologists say perfectionism wears three masks:

• Self-Oriented: the brutal inner critic.

• Other-Oriented: the micromanager.

• Socially-Oriented: the people-pleaser.

Different masks, same root. Perfectionism isn’t about raising quality. It’s about avoiding shame.

You’re not polishing that presentation because it needs one more tweak.
You’re polishing it because you can’t stomach someone saying, “This isn’t good enough.”

Perfection disguises fear as ambition. And avoidance as high standards.

Ship at 70%

Jeff Bezos once said most decisions should be made with 70% of the information. (Normally, I wouldn’t take advice from a guy who looks like a shaved thumb with Wi-Fi, but on this one — he’s right.)

Waiting for 100% isn’t wisdom. It’s paralysis.

Think about Apple. The first iPhone didn’t even have copy-paste. Copy-paste! But they shipped anyway. Then they improved.

Same with us. You don’t need flawless. You need momentum.

(Besides, nobody’s screenshotting your first draft for the Smithsonian.)

From Perfect to Progress

Here’s how to break the loop:

• Flip the script: Instead of asking, “How do I make this flawless?” ask, “How do I make this useful enough to move forward?”

• Show your work: Share drafts early. Feedback beats endless tinkering.

Perfectionism doesn’t mean you have high standards. It means your standards are fragile.

Excellence isn’t about hiding until it’s safe. It’s about being willing to show up messy, screw up, and keep going.

Final Thought

Perfection isn’t the flawless painting.
It’s the painter who keeps returning to the canvas.

So here’s your challenge:

If you can’t send something at 70%, you’ll never build the momentum that gets you to 100.

Your life, your projects, your dreams aren’t waiting for perfect.
They’re waiting for you to show up.

— Linford

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If you’re done hiding behind “perfect,” start building self-trust today.